Less than a month after that catastrophic birthday, I experienced the happiest day of my life (cliche to say....I know. But it really was). I married my best friend and know that he was made by God just for me. Let me just say that I realize 25 may be a "young" age to get married and that thought definitely crossed my mind a minute after he proposed. The thought crossed my mind almost to the point of me not being in the moment and being excited about this experience. My type A over analytical self thought of all the ways why getting married at 25 was not the right TIME. Yes.... I did not write "not the right DECISION"...but TIME.
Time. Isn't that what all of us twenty somethings are marking our lives by? The time it takes to finish school. The time until we "settle down". The time until we have reached success. We have been surrounded by the notion that as a twenty something our life is supposed to occur as follows:
- Graduate college
- Find a good job
- Work hard on your career (make it a #1 priority)
- Focus on starting a family later (once you are successful)
This is crap. Who even created this ridiculous timeline? Here are my thoughts. Do what you know feels right and screw what anyone else thinks. You can start a family first and still be incredibly successful in your career. Will it be harder? Maybe. Will you find more fulfillment in your life if you find the balance between love, career and dreams? Absolutely. The difference is truly knowing what you what for your life and ignoring the timeline. As humans we were created to adapt. There is no perfect plan, it really comes down to having the will and desire to create your own life. It's hard as hell and I know...because like many of you, I am in the thick of it right now. But honestly I am loving every minute of it.
So ignore the timeline, the expectations from those around you (family, friends, etc) and keep discovering who you are. This discovery is continuous. It does not end when you get married, have kids or land your dream job. It happens every day.
xoxo
Jess
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